If you expect others to change, change yourself first.
Are you truly happy?
Parents try to change their children's thoughts and actions, while children try to change their parents' thoughts and attitudes toward them.
Wives try to change their husbands, and husbands try to change their wives into what they desire.
However, it is essential to understand that unless a person decides to change on their own, no one can change another person's thoughts and actions.
Some people believe they can change their family members or acquaintances through money or power, but that is a misconception.
The Truth is, those close to you might only pretend to listen to you to gain access to your money or power.
Reflect on yourself -
Did you ever truly obey your parents' words out of sincere willingness?
Or did you merely act like you did to get what you wanted?
Human nature resists being changed by someone else's demands.
True change can only happen when a person has the genuine desire to change themselves.
If you genuinely want to help those close to you change, you must first change yourself.
People will only sincerely listen to someone who has transformed their selfish self-centered thoughts and actions.
If you wish for your loved ones to live a happy life, you must first let go of the urge to force your version of happiness onto them.
You need to become truly happy yourself first.
When you are genuinely happy, those around you will naturally seek to learn how to find their own happiness by observing you.
If you don't change the negative, self-centered thoughts and behaviors that make you unhappy, yet you insist that those around you change their ways, it is nothing more than violence disguised as love and concern.
When you let go of everything that makes you unhappy, only then will you truly understand what happiness is.
Only by knowing what happiness truly is can you choose it.
If you wish to change your loved ones, you must first be filled with pure happiness yourself.
There are countless meditation methods in the world.
Among them, there are practices focused on training the brain to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
However, that only leaves you with a mind full of both negative and positive thoughts.
You must let go of all self-centered positive and negative thoughts to reveal genuine positivity.
Only when your mind is truly positive can you experience genuine happiness.
Reference: Naperville Meditation Hub.
